Shakespeare already knew that expectations are the beginning of all disappointment*. Throughout our long or a little less long lives we have probably figured that out ourselves. He even went further: the more you expect, the higher is usually the disappointment. We might be able to add to this wisdom that the amount of people involved in the outcome besides ourselves basically work as a multiplier.
Assuming the exact opposite situation would mean the less we expect, the more awesome we experience the outcome. I dare to reckon that most likely this cannot be generalized so easily – but due to recent experiences, I can only recommend to try it once in a while! Please note that forcing yourself to expect nothing will most probably lead to the opposite. Reverse psychology. A good method is therefore to just go and do something you have never done before. If you have absolutely no clue about what is going to happen, not too much can go wrong usually, right?
Being an outright expert myself in setting the expectations so high that they will probably never be met, and there is no chance they could ever be exceeded, I finally wanted to try out something new. Just recently I went to this event that lasted a couple of days and took place in a neighboring country. Going there alone, it was clear from the beginning I would meet at most two people there that I knew, two out of around 2000. I consider myself as open and extrovert, but I also have come across situations where random people were thinking it might be ok to just jump at strangers and force themselves upon them. It has a slightly creepy touch, I can tell you. And hell no, I didn’t wanna start off as the creepy one!
Expecting absolutely nothing and also being in an uncertain situation with the two people I knew, due to arguments shortly before the event, I went there with mixed feelings and the worst-case-scenario in my head of me sitting alone in my room for 3 days. I brought work and some books, just in case.
As you might assume already, this scenario was far from coming true. The argument I had with my friend was – surprise, surprise – way less serious in real life than on the social media, and his friends turned out to be the most awesome people I have met in the past months. No, this is not entirely true, I have met a lot of awesome people – but usually it takes some more time and one, two, three encounters to be absolutely sure you connect. But this time, there was just no time – and therefore we just clicked from the beginning. Or maybe we clicked also for other reasons, eventually. No – not like that.
Anyhow, the point of this story about me meeting amazing people (you could just be happy about that for me; but yes, of course I also have another wise tip for you) is that sometimes, you just have to completely get out of your comfort zone and try out new things. If you have no clue whatsoever about what to expect, the chances are high that you will like at least a part of it. And even if it is only the part of you leaving your comfort zone.
Now you maybe expect something awesome to happen to you, too. Because you read this. I’m sorry, I won’t take any complaints if you get disappointed. But you know what, it doesn’t matter – now you can go and find your own unexpected happenings. Say yes to opportunities popping up, be open for new things and hungry for life – the most fun things usually happen when something you haven’t ever even thought about comes up. That’s, luckily, just life.
*For the curious among you: The exact quote by Shakespeare is Oft expectation fails, and most oft where most it promises; and oft it hits where hope is coldest and despair most sits. from All’s Well That Ends Well.